In the framework of Spiriletics and the Ashingne tradition, we learn about energetic resonance. We are magnetic beings — not just in spirit, but in thought, emotion, and wound. And because like attracts like, we draw into our lives those who mirror our current vibration, especially the parts of us that are most unconscious, unresolved, or yearning for healing.

Here’s what’s happening underneath:

1. Psychological wounds create energetic frequencies.
   These frequencies are patterns — of abandonment, betrayal, unworthiness, neglect, or fear. Without realizing it, we form bonds not through love alone, but through familiar pain. That’s why trauma bonds feel so intense — they’re rooted in recognition, not in truth.

2. Healing disrupts the original resonance.
   As we heal, we stop vibrating in the same way. Our self-worth shifts. Our boundaries solidify. Our patterns dissolve. And that means the old energetic contracts — even with people we deeply love — can begin to break.

3. Growth creates dissonance with those still stuck.
   If someone you love remains trapped in their wounds while you evolve, it can feel like you're speaking different languages. You’re no longer compatible with the vibration that once connected you.

4. You’re not abandoning them — you’re ascending.
   And sometimes, that’s exactly what’s needed for them to begin their own healing. You become a living mirror, not of shared pain, but of possibility.

In Spiriletics, we say:

"You meet people at the wound, but you love them at the healing. If healing doesn’t happen, love becomes pain’s reflection."

And so, we must decide:
Will I dim my light to stay in the room of familiar pain? Or will I walk into the unknown where healing lives, even if I walk alone for a while?